Inspirational Messages For LIfe

Hypeless Messages To Show Life Is Not Hopeless

Why Do We Need to Make People Feel Important?

Two Men Talking Motivation Words to Each Other

 

A few years ago I was on a business course near Southampton. I forget what the subject was but it was held in a hotel. Not somewhere you would necessarily consider a place to receive inspiration messages.

When I first arrived at the venue, I availed myself of the toilet – as one does. In there was a man, cleaning the cubicles. I found myself engaging him in conversation. He seemed a really, honest chap and we had a short but enjoyable interaction. At the end, he said to me ‘you know, not many people take the time to talk to me, I ma only the guy who cleans the toilet, after all.’ I thought for a second and, I don’t know where it came from, I said ’you are more important than you think. If the managing director took a day off, no-one would notice, but, if you didn’t turn up, the toilets would not get cleaned and everyone would notice.’

With that, I left and joined my colleagues. Later, in a break, we were in the corridor and my cleaner friend walked by. He called out ‘hello, Mr. Braithwaite. How is the course going?’

Without thinking, I had made him feel important and that is something so valuable when you deal with people.

Mary Kay Ash always told audiences at her motivational lectures “treat everyone as if they have a sign around their neck that says ‘Make Me Feel Important.’” Many of the massively successful people in life know that treating people in this way will make the other person feel special and very positive towards you.

How do you make someone feel important? Well, the first thing is to concentrate on them. In these days of distracting technology, it is so easy to half listen to someone as you check your phone or iPad. No! I remember successful businessman Jerry Scriven saying, “treat that person as if they are the only person in the room.” Concentrate on what they are saying, sympathetically react to their words, show a genuine interest and ask questions.

Remember someone’s name. It is said the most beautiful words someone can hear is their own name. If you are taking about someone the other side of the room from them, they will not hear what you say until you mention their name. Show that they are important enough for you to remember their name correctly, ask their name and repeat it back to them during the conversation to embed it in your mind.

Never be judgmental. They may be speaking words of motivation, or they may be saying something not so palatable, but always give them the benefit of the doubt. Your own opinions may not be totally correct and you will learn something from everyone with who you have a conversation. There are a lot of fascinating people out there but, if you don’t agree with someone, telling or showing them so is not going to get you anywhere – indeed, you may both come away feeling more negative. Treat everyone as if they have something very important to say.

Try it yourself. Take the time to make people feel important and you be seen as an excellent conversationalist, hugely intelligent and you will make friends wherever you go. Life will be that much more fun.

Of course, this is the basis of that wonderful book, ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’ by Dale Carnegie:

 

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

Dale Carnegie

 

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Finding Your Words of Motivation Every Day

 
 

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Many of us want to achieve great things in life. We often set ourselves goals to achieve, or, at the very least, dreams we want to make come true. Sadly however most of us never reach that great future we want for ourselves.

We try to give ourselves the words of motivation we need to become better people but somehow life gets in the way and we get distracted. Before we know it, the inspiration messages fade from our minds and we find ourselves depressed and feeling something is missing from our lives.

Too many people turn to other destructive activities to forget our failures: drugs, alcohol and tobacco feature too prominently in our lives. And yet, curiously, within these negative activities lie the clues to our frustration.

Habits.

It is great to have dreams of a better life but if we do nothing every day to reach them it is all wasted. So it is what we do on a daily basis that dictates our lives.

Professionals in attempting to reform drug addicts, alcoholics and smokers always try to get them to change their habits. If you are used to having a cigarette when you first wake up, get used to having something else: perhaps a boiled sweet or even go for a run. The key is to learn a new habit.

So it is with becoming a better you. Do something every day that will set on your way. Perhaps get into the habit of meditating at the same time every day or maybe read an uplifting book. If you want to start your own business, set aside the same time every day to do something to achieve the goal.

After all, as Brian Tracy puts it: “Successful people are simply those with successful habits.”

Do something for 30 days without a break and you will find it becomes a habit and so easier to do.

Still not convinced? I became persuaded of the power of daily habits when I wanted to have a good nights sleep. Having researched the subject, I began to set myself the same routine before bed every night. I would wind down in the hour before, switching off the television and computer and carrying out small tasks, such as packing a bag for the next day. I would then have a warm bath, reading a good book as I do so, with soft classical music playing in the background. As I finally retired to bed, I would play exactly the same piece of music every night. Before long I no longer heard much of the music before I fell into a deep sleep.

I was shocked by the efficiency of my habit when one day I was washing up. The same piece of music I used to go to bed started to play on the radio and I started to fall asleep across the sink.

Habits can be so powerful. Get used to doing something every day and you will find success will be not long in finding you. Find your inspiration messages in your habits every day and the frustration suffered by others will pass you by.
 

“We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.”

John Dryden
 
 

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Words Of Motivation: How To Be Specific About Your Goals

 
 

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Everyone seeking to find the words of motivation to improve their lives must at some point set themselves some goals. I have heard this many times but it is not always easy to understand exactly what goals are relevant.

To add to the problems, words of motivation about setting goals use the SMART mnemonic to show the features required of the best goals. The initial ‘S’ stands for Specific. Goals need to be Specific. Clearly those writing the words of motivation realise that the ordinary chap has bother setting goals so tell us we need to pin down exactly what our goals are before we attempt to achieve them.

In truth, if you have spent the time trying to understand what your dreams are, what your dream life would look like, you will already have a good idea what your goals need to be to achieve those dreams. To get to where you want to be you need to know where you are going.

We discussed identifying your dreams in these previous articles.

Jim Rohn (www.JimRohn.com) described it in this way: “Like a well-defined dream, well-defined goals work like magnets. They pull you in their direction. The better YOU DEFINE them, the better YOU DESCRIBE them, the harder YOU WORK on achieving them, the stronger THEY PULL.”

At this point in giving you the words of motivation to set your goals, it might be worth emphasising the fact that you do need to be specific about what you want. In other words, don’t just say you want ‘happiness’ or ‘lots of money.’ What you need to identify is what would bring you happiness and what sum of money you need or, even better, what you could buy with that money. Picture it. Imagine you already have it.

The words of motivation also tell us we need to have big goals and to aim as high as possible. But this has always been an area with which I struggled; how can I set goals that are high enough to motivate me and yet not too high to intimidate me?

The answer seems to be to find what it is that fires you up – whatever it is – and then devise smaller goals leading up to your ultimate dream. This way you can feel the burn that will inspire you and keep it going as you achieve the lesser goals on the way.

It is very much like climbing a mountain. If you want to reach the summit then just focusing on the peak can be daunting: it never seems to get closer. However, if you aim to climb to a point you can see a few hundred metres away, you can achieve that more easily and know that, when you reach there, you are part of the way to your ultimate goal. This will give you the words of motivation you need to set and move on to the next point and so on until you reach the summit.

Sadly most of us fail to set and achieve goals by talking ourselves out of it. Success is achieved by those who have a childlike outlook; children usually believe nothing is impossible and it is only as adults we ‘learn’ the reasons why we can fail.

Jim Rohn puts it well: “You see, many of us have become too skeptical. We’ve lost that wonderfully innocent, childlike faith and trust. Don’t let this stop you. Believe in and have faith in yourself and your goals. And get excited – just like a child. Childlike enthusiasm – there’s nothing more contagious.”

I will find some more words of motivation about finding the right goals for you in the next article.
 
 

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Daily Motivational Phrases: Number 508

 
 

“Do not say that your surroundings are against you.
A man’s surroundings are never against him;
they are there to aid him,
and all those outward occurrences
over which you lose sweetness and peace of mind
are the very conditions necessary to your development,
and it is only by meeting and overcoming them
that you can learn, and grow, and ripen.”

 

James Allen (Above Life’s Turmoil)

 

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Daily Motivational Phrases: Number 504

 
 

“I have no regret in my life.
I think that everything happens to you for a reason.
The hard times that you go through build character,
making you a much stronger person.”

 

Rita Mero

 

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Daily Motivating Phrases: Number 500

 
 

“Guard well your thoughts, reader,
for what you really are in your secret thoughts today,
be it good or evil,
you will, sooner or later,
become in actual deed.”

 

James Allen (Above Life’s Turmoil)

 

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Daily Motivating Phrases: Number 490

 
 

“Never give up,
when people put you down
just fight back
and keep on fighting.”

 

Harriet Lee,
Swimmer and Paralympic Games Bronze medallist

 

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Daily Motivating Phrases: Number 487

 
 

“All pressure is self-inflicted.
It’s what you make of it
or how you let it rub off on you.”

 

Lord Sebastian Coe

 

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Daily Motivating Phrases: Number 467

 
 

“Having a sense of humour is vital,
not just to amuse yourself at parties
but as an essential psychological resource
Research has shown that when we smile we release serotonin,
otherwise known as ‘happy chemicals, in the brain.”

 

Paul McKenna (Change Your Life In 7 Days)

 

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Daily Motivating Phrases: Number 466

 
 

“Today I am choosing to be happy, joyful and grateful,
for I will trust that all of the situations in my life,
whether I like them or not,
are there to take me closer to where I want to be.”

 

Marilyn Devonish

 

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