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Why Do We Need to Make People Feel Important?

Two Men Talking Motivation Words to Each Other

 

A few years ago I was on a business course near Southampton. I forget what the subject was but it was held in a hotel. Not somewhere you would necessarily consider a place to receive inspiration messages.

When I first arrived at the venue, I availed myself of the toilet – as one does. In there was a man, cleaning the cubicles. I found myself engaging him in conversation. He seemed a really, honest chap and we had a short but enjoyable interaction. At the end, he said to me ‘you know, not many people take the time to talk to me, I ma only the guy who cleans the toilet, after all.’ I thought for a second and, I don’t know where it came from, I said ’you are more important than you think. If the managing director took a day off, no-one would notice, but, if you didn’t turn up, the toilets would not get cleaned and everyone would notice.’

With that, I left and joined my colleagues. Later, in a break, we were in the corridor and my cleaner friend walked by. He called out ‘hello, Mr. Braithwaite. How is the course going?’

Without thinking, I had made him feel important and that is something so valuable when you deal with people.

Mary Kay Ash always told audiences at her motivational lectures “treat everyone as if they have a sign around their neck that says ‘Make Me Feel Important.’” Many of the massively successful people in life know that treating people in this way will make the other person feel special and very positive towards you.

How do you make someone feel important? Well, the first thing is to concentrate on them. In these days of distracting technology, it is so easy to half listen to someone as you check your phone or iPad. No! I remember successful businessman Jerry Scriven saying, “treat that person as if they are the only person in the room.” Concentrate on what they are saying, sympathetically react to their words, show a genuine interest and ask questions.

Remember someone’s name. It is said the most beautiful words someone can hear is their own name. If you are taking about someone the other side of the room from them, they will not hear what you say until you mention their name. Show that they are important enough for you to remember their name correctly, ask their name and repeat it back to them during the conversation to embed it in your mind.

Never be judgmental. They may be speaking words of motivation, or they may be saying something not so palatable, but always give them the benefit of the doubt. Your own opinions may not be totally correct and you will learn something from everyone with who you have a conversation. There are a lot of fascinating people out there but, if you don’t agree with someone, telling or showing them so is not going to get you anywhere – indeed, you may both come away feeling more negative. Treat everyone as if they have something very important to say.

Try it yourself. Take the time to make people feel important and you be seen as an excellent conversationalist, hugely intelligent and you will make friends wherever you go. Life will be that much more fun.

Of course, this is the basis of that wonderful book, ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’ by Dale Carnegie:

 

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

Dale Carnegie

 

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Inspiration Message: Goals Need To Be Measurable

 
 

Silver TVR Tuscan In Showroom

 
You may be like so many people and finding the purpose of your life but you may also be looking for the words for motivation to help you find your direction. I believe it is pretty well accepted that in finding the purpose of your life you need to set yourself some goals.

In the last article here on InspirationMessages.com we examined the idea that for goals to be effective they need to be specific. This was the first letter of the mnemonic SMART, which lists the characteristics needed for successful goals.

The second letter, ‘M’, indicates that goals need to be Measurable.

For a goal to be life changing we need to know when we are close to it and, of course, when we have achieved it. One of my goals is to own a nice TVR Tuscan S sports car. Of course I could buy one now if I wanted to do so and I was prepared to take out a loan.

But getting into debt does not agree with my own standards and values. In any case, the experience of owning such a car would be devalued if I was worrying about paying for it. The only option is to buy the car for cash.

But how much money would I need? Using money as a measure of your goals is a great way of finding the purpose of your life. I have researched such cars and have discovered a good example would cost around £25 000.

I now know how much money I need to achieve my goal. The goal is now measurable.

Many goals can be defined in terms of money. Indeed, a certain amount of money can be a goal in itself. A vague ‘I want to be rich’ is unlikely to inspire you but knowing exactly how much money and what it would bring you will be much more likely to drive you forward.

Carefully defining your goals has other benefits too. Charles J. Givens wrote: “The more specific and measurable your goal, the more quickly you will be able to identify, locate, create, and implement the use of the necessary resources for its achievement.”

Being able to measure your goals is essential if you are finding the purpose of your life. Ensuring you can quantify your goals enables you to track how close you are getting to them and this gives you all the motivation you need.
 

People with clear, written goals, accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them could ever imagine.
Brian Tracy

 
 

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Words Of Motivation: How To Be Specific About Your Goals

 
 

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Everyone seeking to find the words of motivation to improve their lives must at some point set themselves some goals. I have heard this many times but it is not always easy to understand exactly what goals are relevant.

To add to the problems, words of motivation about setting goals use the SMART mnemonic to show the features required of the best goals. The initial ‘S’ stands for Specific. Goals need to be Specific. Clearly those writing the words of motivation realise that the ordinary chap has bother setting goals so tell us we need to pin down exactly what our goals are before we attempt to achieve them.

In truth, if you have spent the time trying to understand what your dreams are, what your dream life would look like, you will already have a good idea what your goals need to be to achieve those dreams. To get to where you want to be you need to know where you are going.

We discussed identifying your dreams in these previous articles.

Jim Rohn (www.JimRohn.com) described it in this way: “Like a well-defined dream, well-defined goals work like magnets. They pull you in their direction. The better YOU DEFINE them, the better YOU DESCRIBE them, the harder YOU WORK on achieving them, the stronger THEY PULL.”

At this point in giving you the words of motivation to set your goals, it might be worth emphasising the fact that you do need to be specific about what you want. In other words, don’t just say you want ‘happiness’ or ‘lots of money.’ What you need to identify is what would bring you happiness and what sum of money you need or, even better, what you could buy with that money. Picture it. Imagine you already have it.

The words of motivation also tell us we need to have big goals and to aim as high as possible. But this has always been an area with which I struggled; how can I set goals that are high enough to motivate me and yet not too high to intimidate me?

The answer seems to be to find what it is that fires you up – whatever it is – and then devise smaller goals leading up to your ultimate dream. This way you can feel the burn that will inspire you and keep it going as you achieve the lesser goals on the way.

It is very much like climbing a mountain. If you want to reach the summit then just focusing on the peak can be daunting: it never seems to get closer. However, if you aim to climb to a point you can see a few hundred metres away, you can achieve that more easily and know that, when you reach there, you are part of the way to your ultimate goal. This will give you the words of motivation you need to set and move on to the next point and so on until you reach the summit.

Sadly most of us fail to set and achieve goals by talking ourselves out of it. Success is achieved by those who have a childlike outlook; children usually believe nothing is impossible and it is only as adults we ‘learn’ the reasons why we can fail.

Jim Rohn puts it well: “You see, many of us have become too skeptical. We’ve lost that wonderfully innocent, childlike faith and trust. Don’t let this stop you. Believe in and have faith in yourself and your goals. And get excited – just like a child. Childlike enthusiasm – there’s nothing more contagious.”

I will find some more words of motivation about finding the right goals for you in the next article.
 
 

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Daily Motivational Phrases: Number 508

 
 

“Do not say that your surroundings are against you.
A man’s surroundings are never against him;
they are there to aid him,
and all those outward occurrences
over which you lose sweetness and peace of mind
are the very conditions necessary to your development,
and it is only by meeting and overcoming them
that you can learn, and grow, and ripen.”

 

James Allen (Above Life’s Turmoil)

 

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Daily Motivational Phrases: Number 504

 
 

“I have no regret in my life.
I think that everything happens to you for a reason.
The hard times that you go through build character,
making you a much stronger person.”

 

Rita Mero

 

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Daily Motivating Phrases: Number 492

 
 

“I think it doesn’t matter
how far I have gone
or how low I have fallen,
I always take a new day as an opportunity
to add something to what I have done previously.”

 

Alessandro (Alex) Zanardi

 


 
 

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Daily Motivating Phrases: Number 489

 
 

 

“Personal transformation can and does have global effects.

As we go, so goes the world, for the world is us.

The revolution that will save the world is ultimately a personal one. “

 

 

Marianne Williamson

 

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Daily Motivating Phrases: Number 488

 
 

“A hero is an ordinary individual
who finds the strength to persevere
and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles.”

 

Christopher Reeve

 

Richard Whitehead Running The 2009 Boston Marathon Inspiration Messages

 
 

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Daily Motivating Phrases: Number 487

 
 

“All pressure is self-inflicted.
It’s what you make of it
or how you let it rub off on you.”

 

Lord Sebastian Coe

 

Lord Sebastian Coe Speaking Inspiration Messages At A Press Conference

 
 

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Daily Motivating Phrases: Number 474

 
 

“The reason most people never reach their goals
is that they don’t define them,
or ever seriously consider them as believable or achievable.
Winners can tell you where they are going,
what they plan to do along the way,
and who will be sharing the adventure with them.”

 

Denis Waitley

 

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