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Inspiration Message: The Paradox Of Success

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We all want to lead more fulfilling, interesting and meaningful lives. What this really means is different for every one of us and yet there are inspiration messages that apply to all of us.

I believe that success is not success without treating other people correctly. This may not come as surprise as I have said this elsewhere on this site but my next words of motivation might: you need to be selfish too.

‘Hold on,’ you say, ‘how can you say you need to do right by other people AND say you need to be selfish?’ This is the paradox of success.

I regularly come across people who believe the inspiration message ‘You have to look after number one’ or ‘Look after yourself and forget the others’ but those people have rarely achieved anything or, if they have, it is hollow success (which I would hardly consider success at all). I tend to see this as the ‘Losers Creed’ and yet there is a grain of truth in it.

The reality is there is a time to be selfish and a time to look out for others. The key is to know when those times are. A popular example is the use of oxygen masks on an airplane. Listen to the instructions you are given before undertaking a flight. They invariably tell you to, in an emergency, put on your own mask before helping the person next to you to do so. And this is my inspiration message too: you cannot help somebody else if you are in a weak position too.

The time to be selfish is when you are identifying your dreams and understanding what you need to do to put yourself in a strong position. I once researched the idea of making a career in counselling. As part of this, I visited a gentleman who was a guru in this field, having just retired from a senior position at Cambridge University. One of the inspiration messages I remember him telling me was that all counsellors need to take time out to be counselled themselves in order to serve their clients effectively.

Here are some more words of motivation: we need to make the best of ourselves in order to be able to give to other people. The most basic version of this is we need money to give money to the poor but it goes beyond that. We also need to be strong in order to emotionally support others.

Of course we cannot expect to help everyone in the world but we can certainly help those with which we have contact. Obviously these include our own family and friends but I would also argue it involves strangers with whom we come into contact, no matter how briefly. Just a cheery greeting can change someone’s day.

There is a second paradox here too. If you take the time to pass on some positive words of motivation to another person, you will find it produces a warm feeling of contentment inside you too. Try it and you will understand. It is a widespread belief too that helping others will attract even more success to you.

The author James Allen wrote these words of motivation, “Let your soul expand, let your heart reach out to others in loving and generous warmth, and great and lasting will be your joy, and all prosperity will come to you.”

The truth is, as John Donne wrote, no man is an island and we need to ensure our contact with others is positive every time.

So a good inspiration message is we need to make the best of ourselves as often as we need in order to serve those who need us to be strong. Then when we do deal with other people we need to ensure as many as possible benefit from the experience. It can be a difficult balance but getting it right means success will be all the sweeter.

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