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Inspiration Messages: Shift Happens Video

Following on from the recent article and words of motivation on dealing with the speed of change, I have reproduced the following video which was doing the rounds a few years ago.

Watch it and then reflect that this was produced in 2007. Think how much has changed, and is changing, since then.

There are now 500 million active users of Facebook, with 50% logging on every day. 250 million people active users access Facebook through a mobile phone. If Facebook was a country it would be the third largest behind China and India.

MySpace has 63 million users and Twitter has 200 million. Twitter users send 1 billion Tweets a week.

So what changes are next?

Whatever happens we can all be confident we can handle it.

 

 

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Words Of Motivation: Dealing With The Speed Of Change

The world is changing so fast.

For centuries technology changed very slowly; horses or oxen ploughed fields and travelling to the next town was a great event to the average man. Foreign countries were places of mystery to which only the very rich or the very foolhardy could travel, as the expedition would take years, if the traveller ever came back.

The most effective, indeed the only, means of communication was by post.

Look at the world now. We can travel to the other side of the world in a day. When the Japanese earthquake and tsunami happened in March 2011 it was shown to viewers of BBC news less than an hour later, the Royal Wedding in London the following month was watched by a million people who lined the route, many of them had travelled halfway around the world to be there, 2 billion people saw the event live on television and a further 400 million watched it online.

We can now talk to people anywhere in the world in live conversation and work on computers, which were unimaginable 20 years ago. They were beyond science fiction. This article has been written in the United Kingdom and published in the Philippines a matter of minutes later.

And yet many people are still afraid of change.

The speed of development in the world has meant we are all still largely thinking the same as our ancestors a century ago. Sure, we believe we are embracing change: each new generation seems to embrace advance faster than the last.

But are we the masters of change or are we being controlled by it?

But you may say ‘I am not afraid of change. Look, I have the latest telephone and the latest television. I embrace change.’ But I think one of the signs of a fear of change is the fear of being left behind by change.

Let me put it this way. You have a lovely flash high definition television. Nice. But surely you should have the latest 3D television if you are keeping up with technology? Many people have done this; in the first nine months of sale, two million 3D televisions were sold in North America. Why? Did people really need them?

Then truth is they were afraid of falling behind in the technology race. Change mastered them.

Underlying all this change are values that have never changed. Having respect for other people will always be important. Making the most of ourselves will always be key.  Finding peace in ourselves will never rely on technology. Words of motivation are needed now as much as at any time.

But the fear of change makes us forget important principles in life. Those televisions cost around £1000 a time and, if the technology changes each year, that is an annual cost. And then don’t forget the new computers, computer games and telephones that are needed.

Wit the ease of communication comes marketing. Now it is easier than ever for companies to persuade you that their products are the ones you want. And you buy them even if you do not have the money. Change is mastering you.

And yet we still fear changes to our lives. In the second half of the twentieth century the population of Britain lived in comfort, knowing the state will always support them if things went wrong. Now the money has gone. We all have to change the way we think and listen to the words of motivation. We have to start to rely on ourselves. This has always been true but we lost sight of it.

Now we have to change. But we are afraid.

Over the last few weeks, strikes have been threatened throughout the country because things are changing. Because pay and pensions are being eroded. But the truth is this is just change and I would bet that this is being repeated in different ways around the world.

My words of motivation are these: things are changing faster than ever and yet what has always been important is still there. We are all equal to the challenges ahead if we learn to be the master of them, adapt where necessary and keep to our values and natural laws.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things I can,

And the wisdom to know the difference.

 

 

 

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Word Of Motivation: Fear Has Its Place

Quite rightly we realize that we have to overcome fear in order to put our lives in order. We look for some word of motivation that will turn fear into courage and help us drive on to find our dreams.

But, as with so many things in life, this negative aspect does have its place. We just have to understand at what point fear becomes a liability to us.

Fear is there to warn us of danger. It tells us to be wary of something that may be a threat. It has connections to our unconscious selves and intuition. If we feel fear, we should register it and try to understand what message we are receiving. We can detect something wrong even before we can see it.

Children and dogs sometimes instinctively fear someone or something and this warns them to stay clear. That is a very useful talent to have.

Fear is simply another message we are receiving about a situation. We should attend to it but not make it our master.

We also need fear to create courage. To have courage we must have fear. They are simply two opposites.

Some people find the word fear as a word of motivation. A fear of loss or rejection may motivate us to ensure that situation does not happen. Sports stars often use fear as a spur to do better. The fear of failure can drive us on to achieve more.

Ron Dennis, the Chairman of the McLaren Formula One team hates to fail:

“The gratification of success is easily matched by the pain of failure. Whilst you would initially think that the biggest driver is the search for the rush of success, it doesn’t drive you as much as the pain of failure. I feel psychological pain in failure, and it’s a great motivator.”

(From Mind Games by Jeff Grout and Sarah Perrin)

Equally Dame Ellen MacArthur says one of her big motivators on ocean-going yacht races is the fear of letting down her team at home.

So we need to use fear as a word of motivation. We should never let it dominate us; if there is a positive to be gained from fear we should take it. Then we turn our back on fear and drive forward.

 

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Words Of Motivation: Fearing Ill Health, Old Age And Death

The more significant fears we have during our lives concern major changes over which we feel we have no control and no words of motivation can counter this: or so many of us think. We therefore fear falling ill or growing old or even death.

In many ways these are all related to each other but we will deal with them separately.

Fear Of Ill Health

Napoleon Hill in his great book, ‘Think And Grow Rich,’ states that he believed more than three quarters of those visiting doctors suffer from hypochondria or imaginary illness.

The fear of falling ill can actually replicate the symptoms of that illness and indeed in extreme cases can actually create the illness. The mind is stronger than many people realize and can work for positive or negative. As Hill wrote, “Powerful and mighty is the human mind! It builds or it destroys.”

“There is overwhelming evidence that disease sometimes begins in the form of negative thought impulse. Such an impulse may be passed from one mind to another by suggestion, or created by an individual in his own mind.”

Sadly this fear has been encouraged by suppliers of drugs and medicines in an attempt to boost sales of their products.  Advertisements often suggest you might have a certain condition and a particular brand of medicine will help you.

In the same way that words of motivation can help you improve your life, words can also be used to make you feel things are not going well.

Those who suffer from a fear of illness will try all the fad diets and remedies around and, not surprisingly, are unlikely to find any work. They will talk about and concentrate on an illness until it appears and then they will react with ‘I told you so.’ Indeed there is some evidence to suggest worry about illness can affect the immune system.

Victims will look for attention and sympathy and will suffer from a lack of ambition and will be lazy. Ironically they will avoid having an active and healthy outdoor life.

As with so many fears, sufferers may well turn to alcohol and narcotics to disguise their symptoms.

The Fear Of Old Age

Of course a fear of illnesses related to old age is part of this fear but so also is a worry about a perceived loss of abilities and functions (including sexual).  Equally there is a fear of a loss of independence and freedom and of poverty.

The fear of poverty in old age relates not only to an inadequate pension provision but also in terms of medical bills and care costs. There is also the worry that others might move in and take advantage of the situation.

The media also promotes this fear. Television programmes and films always portray older people as inadequate and useless when this does not have to be the case at all.  I was delighted to see the movie ‘Harry Brown’ showing a retired man fighting back, for example.

Even the traditional image of wisdom and intelligence in old age is being eroded, replaced instead by the view that people of a certain age are doddery and incapable. Not surprisingly this enables companies promoting mobility aids, pensions, drugs and medicines to sell more products.

No wonder more and more people fear their old age.

This results in many suffering a premature slowdown with a feeling that the age of 40 is the beginning of the end. Words of motivation tell us that with a growing older population this certainly is not true at all. Yet too many start apologizing for being ‘old’ and feel inferior.

After a certain age too many people feel unable to show imagination and self-reliance.

Others go too far the other way and start to masquerade as a younger person with dyed hair, inappropriate dress and riding powerful motorcycles. In reality this simply inspires ridicule.

The Fear Of Death

This fear comes from an ignorance of what happens after we die. In previous years this was dealt with by words of motivation from various religions generally putting a positive slant on the process (reincarnation or ascending into heaven). However some leaders did use the situation to their advantage by taking the opposite viewpoint, threatening terrible consequences if people did not follow their instructions.

Somewhere in our subconscious is a fear of fire and brimstone.

Regrettably the ignorance about death has also been used by extremist leaders to offer eternal glory to suicide bombers for example.

I suspect the fear of death has something to do with guilt at not having lead a fulfilling life. Certainly the fear can lead people to worry instead of making the most of their lives. This can be the result of not having a purpose or some meaningful activity.

Once again a fear of poverty is true but this time for the loved ones who are left.


 

Conclusion

Sadly all these fears are based on erroneous information and the stereotypes offered by the media. Such images should not be accepted and should be replaced by words of motivation that give you an understanding that you are as well or unwell as you want to be.

Recently I watched my 99-year-old neighbour climb a ladder to clean his windows. Clearly nobody has told him he is not able to do so.

 

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Inspiration messages: Bob Proctor On Fear

One of the best teachers of inspiration messages alive today is Bob Proctor.

In the short video below he gives his opinion on fear and gives you some inspiration messages on how to deal with it.

Once you have watched the video you might like to visit Bob on his site the11forgottenlaws.com to see how he can help you take the principles from The Secret to a new level.

 

 

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Words Of Motivation: Leave Your Fears Behind

We all need some words of motivation on occasions as we all have fears of one sort or another to overcome.

Whether we are afraid of criticism, of failure, of success or indeed any change in life we feel we can’t handle, the fears are there. And yet the truth is, as with any aspect of the Law Of Attraction, the more we think about our fears, the more we attract them.

As James Allen wrote: “The soul attracts that which it secretly harbours; that which it loves, and also that which it fears; it reaches the height of its cherished aspirations; it falls to the level of its unchastened desires – and circumstances are the means by which the soul receives its own.”

Sure, read about fear (including in this blog – please!) and understand what you are afraid of but also understand what you can do to overcome that fear – and do it!

I hope we are all here to make the best of ourselves, using words of motivation or whatever it takes, so we need to understand the problem and move on. It is not right to dwell on what is wrong in our lives or we will never move away from the present situation.

So think about fears for just as long as you need to, defeat them and move on.

Winston Churchill said, “If you are going through hell, don’t stop, keep going!”

Find the words of motivation to overcome your fears and leave them behind.

 

 

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Words Of Motivation: Brian Tracy And The Fear Of Failure (Video)

Inspiration Messages: The Lessons From Cheating In Tennis

A few weeks ago I was able to watch a tennis match during a national championship at a local club. It was a lovely sunny day so it should have been relaxing and there should have been no inspiration messages for me to write about.

The match I was watching was between a young girl, I will call her Lucy, the daughter of a friend, and an adult player. Lucy is in her early teens but an extremely talented player (she is always highly ranked for her age despite a series of injuries). She was playing a Russian professional or semi-professional in her twenties who has played in the early rounds of Wimbledon.

On paper the match should have been a foregone conclusion. However the Russian gave the impression that she lacked talent and soon started to get rattled by the sheer talent of her opponent. And this is where things started to change.

The older player started to cheat. She would call shots out when they were in and would question or alter the score. It soon became clear she was bullying her opponent, as she was much younger.

It got to the stage where Lucy’s father asked the senior umpire to watch the game (umpires tend to walk around and not watch one match unless asked). The Russian started to bully the umpire.

Although there was now an umpire present, the damage was done. Lucy lost her nerve and the match.

As the game progressed and I realized what was happening I started to think: ‘why would somebody cheat like that?’

At first I thought the older woman was so keen on winning she would do anything to do so. And then another thought entered my mind. The Russian was panicking. Her body language was very negative and I could see it in her eyes. It was not just that she was not winning, she was consumed by a fear of failure.

Perhaps she felt she was slipping back, her time had passed. Here she was facing a girl half her age who was undeniably more talented. She had run out of ability and was facing defeat, which was something she could not handle.

In life and especially in sport, defeat is something you need to experience. Often losing teaches you a great deal more that winning. Of course you never want to lose but on the other hand you need to be able to lose and learn from it.

What do you gain by winning through cheating?

Certainly in tennis cheating will only get you so far. Once you get to the levels where each match has an umpire and you meet the talented players, like Lucy, your lack of talent becomes obvious.

I’m told cheating is common at the junior levels of tennis. The inspiration messages to be learned then are learning to be equal to it.

If Lucy had kept her nerve, she could have won the match. How could she have helped herself? The truth is her Russian opponent’s cheating had been telling Lucy that she had run out of talent and was frightened. This should be one of the signs Lucy needed to stay calm, grit her teeth, up her game and go in for the kill.

As the athlete Roger Black said, “I could lose all my money. I could lose my house. But I can’t fail, because there is no such thing as failure. If you’re an athlete or whatever you do, the worst thing is to be afraid of failure.”

 

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Inspiration Messages: The Spectre Of The Fear Of Poverty

In his classic 1937 book ‘Think And Grow Rich,’ Napoleon Hill listed the main fears mankind suffers. The first one he examined was the fear of poverty. In Hill’s words, “The fear of poverty is, without doubt, the most destructive of the six basic fears.”

I am not likely to argue with him. The fear of poverty is a chronic anxiety that we will make mistakes and end up not having enough money to pay for life’s basic necessities. Modern society tends to equate success with wealth so it is for this reason I will combine the fear of failure with the fear of poverty.

Both fears are born from the mistaken belief that failure is to be discouraged and if someone wins another person must lose. This is almost entirely untrue.

To start with, as Napoleon Hill put it, “we live in a world of overabundance of everything the heart could desire, with nothing standing between us and our desires, excepting a lack of a definite purpose.”

But let us examine how the combined fears of poverty and failure affect our lives.

The Symptoms

Regrettably the corporate world largely considers failure of any sort to be a weakness to be avoided at all costs. And yet so many successes have been discovered through trial and error: finding out what works and what does not work. A culture where failure is unacceptable results in entire companies suffering the symptoms of the fear of failure and even of poverty.

To avoid failure, people will go to great lengths to avoid taking responsibility. They will feign indifference and will become lazy. If anything goes wrong there is an immediate rush to blame somebody else. Indeed it is a bonus if some other fool is happy to make decisions. Ironically, if that person then succeeds, then others less willing to take charge will exhibit symptoms of envy.

Of course procrastination is a major feature and excuses are found as to why things have not been achieved. What is ridiculous of course is the time taken to devise a good excuse could have been used to complete the task.

Risk and innovation, the main fuel of life, are avoided and change is resisted. In all too many cases the status quo will be adhered to rigidly, even if change is badly needed.

In any disputes compromise will be found too hastily, simply to avoid prolonged decision-making and to reduce difficulties. Any problems will be endlessly passed around rather than resolved head on. There will be a wish to bargain for small rewards and this explains why a workforce might negotiate for a tiny pay rise.

A particular feature of the fear of poverty is the blind requirement to accept anything that is offered for free or to buy sale items, even if the items are not required. I am teetotal and a while ago I was told of the distribution of free bottles of wine. Naturally I said I would not be interested but the person who had told me the news was aghast. He actually said, “but it’s FREE.”

Unfortunately these symptoms can take a sinister turn if unchecked. The demand for free gifts can degenerate very easily into stealing. The desire to avoid failure can lead, and has lead, to dishonesty in terms of falsifying figures and hiding errors.

In any case the fears will lead to pessimism, negative attitudes and a poor self-image. In extremes this can result in stress, a poor physical appearance and illnesses (such as indigestion and high blood pressure).

Conclusion

Fearing failure and poverty can have some serious results. Facing challenges and not worrying about failure shows and produces confidence. In any case those people who never make mistakes are not doing anything worthwhile.

Those who are not afraid of failure send very positive inspiration messages to others. We need to change this assumption that mistakes are to be avoided.

“One who fears failure limits his activities. Failure is only the opportunity to more intelligently begin again.” Henry Ford

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Inspiration Messages And The Fear Of Criticism

It was recently reported that a columnist writing for the Daily Telegraph had closed his online blog following excessive criticism in comments to that blog.

With the availability of mass media such as the Internet, individuals can make their opinions and criticisms available to a wide audience. This is further exacerbated by the fact that the use of nom de plumes ensures the critic frequently remains anonymous.

Writing in 1937, Napoleon Hill observed, “Criticism is the one form of service of which everyone has too much. Everyone has a stock of it which is handed out, gratis, whether called for or not.”

I believe the free availability of opinions has made the fear of criticism a major problem in modern society. Individuals are less likely to go their own way for fear of the criticism that will almost inevitably follow.

In his classic book, ‘Think And Grow Rich,’ Napoleon Hill discusses the fear of criticism. “The fear of criticism robs man of his initiative, destroys his power of imagination, limits his individuality, takes away his self-reliance, and does him damage in a hundred other ways.”

My knowledge of lobster or crab fishing is woefully inadequate but I have heard an analogy made with the way these crustacea are caught. The baskets used work primarily because any lobster or crab trying to escape is pulled back in by his fellow captives.  Regrettably human beings are much the same.

If one person tries to be successful others will try to pull him or her back through various forms of criticism.

The Symptoms

Included in this fear are the fears of public speaking and stage fright.

This fear has definite effects and symptoms the most obvious of which must be nervousness and timidity. Sufferers are self-conscious and hesitant in meeting and holding conversations with strangers. Their body language is nervous and restrained.

Perhaps not surprisingly the fear of criticism also shows as an inability to make firm decisions or express definite opinions. It creates laziness, procrastination, giving too much weight to the opinions of others and no firmness of purpose.

The most interesting features of the fear however arise from a raging inferiority complex. This involves overcompensating in ways such as using long words (often without knowing the meaning), appearing as if superior to others, overspending and boasting of imaginary achievements. Even imitating and copying the dress of others is a sure indicator.

Conclusion

Now you can see how many people struggle with this fear.

The answer is to understand that you are capable of achieving anything you really determine to pursue. Understand that your critics are saying more about their own insecurities than about you.

Listen to all the words of motivation that tell you you can do it because, quite frankly, you can.



 

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